Ever so often there comes a time in one’s life that will really set you off from your path to greatness. It could be at a moments notice and BAM! Your hard earned creations go to shambles, you get dumped, or whatever the drama is, it hurts and it sets you back. Especially when you were on a good one. You were going to the gym everyday, meal prep was on point, your bae was so sweet and loving and wow your creativity was unfolding so much amazing manifestations. And then the universe plays a funny trick on you to test your character, your emotional intelligence, your integrity, your commitment to loving yourself, and others and the planet. What now? How can one be mindful in a time of suffering, pain and turbulence?
The human experience does not discriminate life’s trials, tribulations and challenges. There is no way of knowing when it happens. You can push yourself to plan every minute detail of your life to prevent breakdowns, setbacks and extremely uncomfortable circumstances all your life but who are we kidding? That is just a disappointment waiting to happen because you can’t control everything. Problems offer a certain amount of uncertainty, my mentor, my hero, probably my husband in my past life, Tony Robbins says this about uncertainty, “If we get total certainty, we get … bored out of our minds. So, God, in Her infinite wisdom, gave us a second human need, which is uncertainty. We need variety. We need surprise.” Uncertainty can and will develop your muscles of empowerment, emotional intelligence, tolerance, resiliency, intuition, etc. We must embraces these surprises. Avoiding the issues does not mean they do not exist and sadly will do nothing for your growth, and personal development.
“I never learned anything from a match that I won.” Bobby Jones, golfer.
So how can I turn a minor setback into a Major Comeback?
Give yourself permission to be human
This is something that many people who are so terribly hard on themselves struggle with. I know because I am one of those people. I am so hard on myself I can’t even breath sometimes. I am literally choking on those inner berating conversations that go on in my mind when these surprises attack my zen filled life. Your ego will screw with you. Your ego will question what the truth is. All this is going to do is drag your energy down. The truth is, you are human. and remember humans have a basic need for uncertainty and this is all for your own good. I promise.
I have an amazing friend once whom I had confided in post breakdown. He said, “Good job you were being human today.” At that very moment, I took a deep breath and acknowledged myself for being human. I gave myself a break. I gave myself permission to make mistakes and learn and move forward. Mistakes happen, setbacks happen and things sometimes don’t go as planned. But I can assure you that these are all blessings in disguise. Can you cut yourself some slack? Can you give yourself permission to be human? Can you be gentle with yourself? and know that you are doing your best to figure it all out? Awesome, take a deep breath and take that in and read on.
Know the Truth
In my coaching program, I coach people in developing new truths and new beliefs systems. This process in my coaching program is probably one of most transformational. This allows someone to tap into their core and go within and believe in something that aligns with their true authentic self and values. These amazing new truths and belief systems are so energizing and empowering it just lights you up even in the midst of a setback, because everything we could ever want is within us as long as we believe so and see the truth in it.
My coach who trained and certified me at Transform Coaching Academy, is an international award winning author and celebrated life coach, Dr. Eve Agee states, “Beliefs shape our reality.” So if that statement were to be true, and when someone gets to believe, that life isn’t happening to me it is happening for me, one’s reality begins to shift. Versus, I believe that I always get bad luck and I can never get a break, a negative belief. Do you feel the shift of energy in both belief statements? One is more empowering and one not so much. So tell me which belief system will shape a reality of success, abundance, solutions, love and fulfillment in one’s life? And which belief system activates a reality of discouragement, guilt, low vibration, and negative feelings? The answer is obvious.
Know the truth. The truth is you are a phenomenal human being with amazing potential and gifts to share with the world. This truth is universal and stands true for every single human and life form in the world. At this moment you get to receive and accept this truth. For some its harder to accept but that’s perfectly alright. It takes courage to belief in ones self. I have literally had to yell out my truth from the top of my lungs and fight and face myself in times of desperation and frustration and declare to myself and the Universe, my creator who I am. By doing this is when all the positive affirmations kick in, the incredible miraculous power of the I AM statements. I AM statements will awaken the deep truth that is in your core.
Ask for Support
This means create partnerships with amazing people like your family, friends, your partner, colleagues, and if all of those are unavailable, which happens because people can be so cruel and out of touch due to a host of things (technology) then I must recommend have relationships with experts in such fields of healing, personal development, like published, authors. Tony Robbins helped me get out of depression in March 2015. Since then I have learned and am still learning to attract the right people in my tribe who can support me when I need it. Trust me the path to greatness is not supposed to be a lonely journey and there are people out there who will help you when you are about to lose your mind. I used to be a lone wolf. I created so much isolation in my world and felt like no one cared about me and no one was willing to help. I was too afraid to be myself with people. I was inauthentic. I feared rejection because I had lots of dream killers in my life. But good news is, your tribe is out there. You get to recruit the finest members to be part of your tribe. These people will stand for your higher self, the best version of yourself and nothing less. These angels will be your support system.
They will show up with gifts in many shapes and forms. These gifts look like love, empowerment, resources, energy, money, ideas, solutions and so many other things. The more I dived deep in to my journey of greatness I have attracted the right people in my life. I know I have truly benefited to have them support me and I know they feel the same way. This support will help you realize you are not alone. My support system has helped me through my weight issues, financial issues, heart aches, minor setbacks and big life crisis. And guess what? We all have those angels out there assigned to lift us up when we need it most.
Shift into Possibility and Potential
Every moment and breakdown still has a running chance of making the most out of something for a winning result or breakthrough. Every moment deserves a chance to explore the potential of the highest outcome. No matter the circumstances. Every moment deserves someone to seek divine intervention. This is what separates the leaders and the followers. Leaders simply never gave up in that moment of distress. They looked within, throughout all that was available to them and did not give up. This sense of relentlessness is the one of the secrets to winning in life. Legendary Peak Performers in life always thought this way. You must succumb to the very limitations that have held you captive in your own prison of guilt, fears, shame, frustration, negativity for so long. And it all starts with a thought. You owe it to yourself to condition your mind like a champion and gain the tools to access freedom, possibilities, potential and miracles.
To Break it Down
- Give yourself permission to be Human. Part of your journey here as a Human is to accept that life is not perfect and you cannot avoid the minor setbacks. Acknowledge that you are human and your are always doing your best. Those around you are also doing there best. So try not to take so much personally. Because it may not seem like it. It may seem like they are deliberately trying to ruin your life but they are still doing their best. We are responsible for understanding and accepting that everyone is always doing their best.
- Know the truth. Our truths and belief systems can easily get corrupted living in a world that is infested with lies that keep you small and caged in. You have been gifted with intelligence to create a dynamic belief and truth system that will fully support yourself and others in the world. Create a new truth that enables you to win and others to win also. Win + Win
- Ask for support. Your tribe will either elevate you or bring you down. Chose a network of select family members, friends, colleagues and partner that will challenge you, believe in you and celebrate your Major Comebacks. This type of support is crucial. The saying stands true no successful person ever did it alone. If none are available, go for an author or hire a life coach that can help you unblock any fears and past pains that is holding you back from attracting the right people in your support system.
- Shift into Possibility and Potential, never ever give in to the fact that its over. It’s only over when you say its over. Every moment deserves a chance. Every problem has a solution. Every moment is ready to birth some miracles, magic and is infused with divine intervention. Sure sometimes there are days you will lose. But the biggest defeat is living the life of regret and not exploring the potential and possibility of a win.
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Sending you all Love and Light,
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Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl
Unlimited Power: The New Science of Personal Achievement by Tony Robbins
The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz